My View on Matriarchy (Blog)


A horror for some men, paradise for me.

A matriarchal society is not inversely proportional to the patriarchal of power, money, and oppression. For me, matriarchy is a loving society where women and men are equal, but where women have the last word. In my translation of matriarchy, this is a society where love is the strongest force, and mutual respect prevails.

I grew up in the 60's and 70's of the last century, the time of the hippies and "Peace and love". A time I was just too young for at the time. I found that feeling again in May 2022 at a Tantra event in Turkey. I got the "Tribe" feeling, a feeling of "chosen family", a safe environment where I could be completely myself. In Tantra, the woman is given the role she deserves.

In "Porno femdom", a dominant woman is often portrayed as a "cold bitch" without any feeling, and men as inferior, wimps who don't deserve any kind of respect.

A lot of people think this is Femdom, yelling and calling names for e.g. (pay) piggy, or tell them you're less than shit.

Certainly, there are men who like to be humiliated, and that is of course allowed. But that's not my idea of Femdom and BDSM.

For me this is a philosophy of life where I receive a lot of love from my Mistress, a life where I can be who I am and gives me a feeling of being a "Proud slave".

For me, Femdom is pure love.

A loving Matriarchal society.

A loving matriarchal society is one in which women are the primary leaders and decision-making is generally guided by a focus on care, collaboration, and well-being. Here are some of the characteristics and potential benefits of such a society:


  • Female leadership: Women hold the most important leadership positions in politics, economics, and social structures.
  • Emphasis on cooperation: Society values cooperation and consensus over competition and individualism.
  • Care for well-being: There is a strong focus on the well-being of all members of society, including children, the elderly, and people with special needs.
  • Respect for nature: Society recognizes the importance of nature and strives for sustainability and harmony with the environment.
  • Equality and inclusion: All members of society are treated equally, regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, or other differences.

Possible benefits:

  • Less violence and conflict: Studies have shown that societies with more female leaders tend to be less violent and conflictual.
  • Better decision-making: By emphasizing collaboration and consensus, matriarchal societies can make informed decisions that take into account the needs of all members of society.
  • Stronger communities: The emphasis on care and well-being can lead to stronger, more supportive communities.
  • More sustainable development: Respect for nature and sustainability can help to protect the planet and ensure a better future for future generations.

Examples in history and fiction:

Although there are no known purely matriarchal societies in modern history, there are examples of cultures with strong matriarchal elements, such as the Mosuo in China and the Minangkabau in Indonesia. In fiction, there are numerous examples of matriarchal societies, such as in the books of Ursula K. Le Guin and Octavia Butler.

Is a matriarchal society the solution?

Whether a matriarchal society is the ideal solution to the world's challenges is a matter of debate. Some believe it could create a more just, peaceful, and sustainable world, while others are skeptical about its feasibility and effectiveness. It is important to recognize that there are no one-size-fits-all solutions, and that every society has its own unique challenges and opportunities.